I’m sorry? In relationships, things happen. Your apologies matter to healing and moving forward.
We recently geeked out about an episode of the Freakonomics podcast all about the science of a good apology. In today’s episode, we apply this apology research to couples’ communication.
In this episode, we talk about:
Best practices for an apology to have an impact
- An apology needs to occur soon after the negative event happens.
- The apology has to have a “cost” to the apologizer (and it needs to be understood that it’s costly by the person who receives the apology).
- Do not overuse apologies without changing behavior—then it is hard to show that the apology is costly.
- What you say first and what you say last are the most important pieces of an apology.
- End your apology by saying how sorry you are and if possible state what restitution you will make.
Offer a more thoughtful apology next time you owe one.
Mentioned in this Episode:
- Freakonomics: How to Optimize Your Apology (Ep. 353)
- The science of apologies with experimental evidence
- Rich and Famous Have A Lot to Learn When it Comes to Saying Sorry
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