How often do we set unreasonable expectations for our partner that inevitably lead to us feeling disappointed?
It’s so common to say “Let’s see if he/she notices [fill in the blank]” or “I’ll test him/her and see if he/she remembers to [fill in the blank].” But… is it really productive, or is this destined for hurt and distance? Why are we setting up our partners for failure?
In this episode, we discuss how we can all set our partner up for success instead, and how that makes all of us happier in relationship.
In this episode, we talk about:
- The classic “Let’s see if he notices my new blouse” test (sstttttopppp)
- What we’re really looking for when we give our partner unreasonable “tests” that they’re likely to fail
- How and why we intentionally set eachother up for success instead
Give your partner an opportunity to succeed and affirm you in a way you’ve been looking for. You may need to have an expectation discussion around affirming one another.
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